All of us have little voices in our heads. They tell us what to do and what not to do in order to keep our sanity and make sure we do the right thing. Those are the good voices. We also have bad voices that try to convince us the good voices are ridiculous and we should just go ahead and do what we really want.
For instance, a friend comes to visit after a shopping trip to the mall. She wants to show you her new dress. Immediately upon pulling it out of the shopping bag, the bad little voice in your head yells, “Oh, my God! That’s the ugliest thing I’ve ever seen!” This is a good friend and you can tell how excited she is about the dress. Therefore, you ignore the bad voice and tell her how beautiful it is. This is your good voice speaking. It makes you feel better even though you know you’ll cringe every time you see her in that outfit.
Not hurting her feelings is more important than telling her how you really feel. That’s what husbands are for.
Your 2-year-old child asks you where babies come from. The bad voice is thrilled about this. It tells you, “Oh, yeah! Go ahead and give him all the details!” Your good voice is telling you to make up some story about storks dropping babies from the sky, or mommy and daddy went to the baby store and picked him out. Well, of course, you go with the good voice. The child is only 2!
The bad voice is telling you to take compliments on how beautiful the den looks after you’ve painted it. The good voice is encouraging you to tell the truth, that you paid somebody to do it. I don’t know what to say about this dilemma. You could go with either voice. Personally, I’d probably just keep my mouth shut and take the compliments.
Bad voice is telling you to ignore the two junk rooms in your house. Good voice is saying, “You know, if you started clearing stuff out a little at a time, you might be able to see the floors again.” Which one to listen to on this? Don’t ask me. Just know that my two junk rooms look just the same as they did two years ago. Guess which voice is winning?
You’re at a party. There’s only one chicken wing left on the platter. Bad voice says, “Go ahead and eat it! Nobody will ever know.” So you do. The hostess comes over to the table and comments on how fast the wings went and that she should have bought more. You’ve been standing by the table for 20 minutes. That was not only the last wing you ate but the last five. You tell her that they must have been very good but you wouldn’t know because you never had the chance to taste them – this being said with barbque sauce all over your face. Guess which voice told you to say that?
I guess what I’m trying to say is keep your mouth shut and weigh your options before saying anything. Use whatever voice you want, but make sure it’s the right one before getting caught telling a little white lie.
(Pat Fickle is a Martinez resident.)